Welcome to this journey into self transformation.
It’s been over two months since I last posted . . . What’s going on? You mean two, whole, beautiful moon cycles? Well yes . . . but there’s a very good reason why I’ve been silent through these last nine weeks.
Can you think of any better excuse for silence other than transformation? I’ve been through a surprising journey of personal transformation and it’s time now to come out and share some of these gems.
So, if you’re ready . . . let’s go!
What is Self Transformation?
You can always change your life. You can change your ideas, thoughts, actions & your reality. You can change your belief models and mindset if they no longer serve you.
Most people believe that their characteristics are ‘fixed’. But the truth is, you can alter your belief structure, and in doing so, get different (desired) results.
If you practise becoming aware of your beliefs, you can observe them to see how they serve you; if they move you forward in life, great. If they keep you stuck in the same place, you can choose to change those models.
So self transformation is growth. And if you self transform over and over again, you become wiser and wiser as you adopt new mindsets instead of inheriting a few set ideas and sticking with them.
You Have Huge Potential
Do you know that you have huge potential? Can you feel that you are more than you always believed? That you are bigger than you thought you were? That you are, actually unlimited?
Do you know also that you have untapped power? You can move closer and closer to that power through self transformation.
For me, the word transformation means:
‘Experiencing a different reality due to fundamentally altered beliefs and/or experiences.’
Self transformation is a transient thing, because once you’ve transformed, as the dust begins to settle, your new base-line feeling becomes the normal ‘you’ again and in this way you expand and grow. Other people may not notice these shifts, or if they do, they put it down to something trivial.
But you feel it.
And with each shift you gain more understanding and growth.
Self transformation is the essence of life, and we all go through it at various points in our lives, whether we’re aware of it or not. But what you can do and what many of us don’t do, is choose it.
If you embrace self transformation as being a continual, transient journey of continuing present moments, you will be evoking a state of continual growth.
And as you grow, you realise that life is an exciting moment!
And we only have a so many of these moments here in this life, so let’s make the most of them and fill our life with growth and transformation.
Remember that you’re incredible and are capable of amazing things.
So, choose something you would like to learn or change and join me in the experience of growth and wisdom. You won’t regret it.
Types of Self Transformation
Self transformation can come from a gradual inclination towards something, which comes about almost unnoticeably, or it can be a sudden rush of thoughts and realisations that bring you to a new conclusion. It can take place over years or in the the snap of your fingers.
Self transformation can also come about as a direct result of an experience. Often, when we experience a painful loss or traumatic experience we will go through a period of self transformation. The problem is, you can also slip into a negative slide and react from misinterpretation and misassumption from your painful experience.
That’s why it’s so important to be aware. Become aware of what you are listening to inside your head and what conclusions and meanings you are giving to any given situation.
When we experience something negative, we tend to assign it a meaning, a reason and a consequence, even if only subconsciously. It is this assigned meaning that will go on to affect our future life, rather than the incident itself.
By becoming aware of what you’re telling yourself and what conclusions you are coming to, you’re better placed to make changes and get rid of any belief systems that are holding you back.
All you need to do is open your mind and open your heart. Decide on something you’d like to focus on and let it evolve into whatever it becomes.
The change I’d focussed on initially was to overcome my block and my inner aversion to being on camera or video.
I never guessed that starting out to transform my attitude towards selfies and videos would lead to uncovering and dismantling my (childhood) fear of playing the piano in front of people!
Synchronicity Will Pave the Way
No sooner had I made the decision that I wanted to learn how to make videos and overcome my fear, than a course popped into my reality. It just appeared before me. Speak and Inspire by Lisa Nichols, presented by Vishen Lakhiani and Mindvalley.
Wow, I thought, now that’s synchronicity! And because I love, love, love it when synchronicity happens like that, I sit up and take notice.
So I took the plunge and I joined.
And as my heart beat a little faster and as I stuttered before the camera, I decided to jump in with both feet and start off with a video. Tongue-tied and camera-shy but nevertheless, on video.
The course wasn’t just about speaking though, it’s a course that helps you to unravel your deepest feelings which you didn’t even realise you had. You take off layer after layer of yourself as you discover things about you that you hadn’t realised because you’d either ignored them or forgotten them.
These fundamentals for that transformation can be replicated. But none of it can happen without the first step: to seek your own self transformation and open yourself to what comes across your path.
Whatever it is you’d like to transform, you can do it!
So if you’re ready, fasten your seatbelt because we’re about to take off!!
Understanding Your Limiting Beliefs
As you peel away much of the top surface and delve into your core beliefs and fears, you may be surprised by many of them. We often live our lives with a deep rooted fear that stems from a belief we formed as children as a consequence to some event which doesn’t need to be given such power.
But as children we gave it meaning, planted it in our subconscious and allowed it to grow over the years until it became what we believe to be a ‘fact’ rooted deep within us.
As you reach the core of your driving beliefs and fears you can choose to change them if they are limiting your growth.
I am now a confident person and I love sharing with you here on this blog. But it wasn’t always the case. I used to be painfully shy and I have re-lived that shyness and re-felt the total fear that I used to live with (in self hypnosis).
I actually used to be scared of being looked at. Scared of being focussed on, talked to, asked questions, fear of attention. Fear was right up there in my life even though I didn’t know it.
And as I grew and discarded these limiting beliefs which led to debilitating shyness, there was one area which I didn’t touch. And that was playing the piano in front of people.
If I were to play the piano with an audience of one or an audience of one hundred, it wouldn’t make a difference; my legs would shake, my hands sweat and tremble, my mind start uselessly interrupting and chattering.
It made playing the piano impossible. This debilitating effect stemmed back to my childhood – but as I didn’t play the piano for over 20 years I never recognised or challenged the fear.
When, years later, I discovered that I was still the child if I were to play piano in front of people, I decided that this limiting belief had to go.
My logical brain knows that it doesn’t matter if you make mistakes. Just play. But my subconscious doesn’t know that. My subconscious believes that I have to be perfect and that as I can’t be perfect – I can’t play in public.
In order to challenge this belief I set myself the personal mission to play the piano in Amsterdam central train station. I knew there was a piano there, now all I needed was the opportunity to play it.
In wonderful synchronicity a group of us who were meeting for the first time arranged to meet by the piano (not by my suggestion btw).
At that moment I knew that this was pure synchronicity and I shared my personal mission with them. And so they came with me on my journey and helped to spur me on to sit and play at the piano. I admit I was trembling!
It may sound trivial to you but it is enormous to me. The physical reaction is so strong that my body shakes! After this first challenge I issued myself with a second challenge, this time for Kings Cross St Pancreas where there is another (very out of tune) public piano.
And again, it was only by synchronicity that we happened to go through Kings Cross recently – because we got on the wrong tube! And with that synchronicity I managed to play for the second time in public. My legs were shaking even though I really wanted to do it.
These steps in self transformation are not just about playing the piano. They’re about liberating yourself from deep rooted fears based on past conclusions to outside events.
How to Activate Self Transformation
In truth you can’t actually ‘seek’ self transformation because it’s already there, waiting for you. So how do you activate it? The first thing you need to do is open yourself to change. Open yourself to acceptance.
Sow the seed in your heart of something you’d like to see change (even if later that seed grows into something totally different than you’d been expecting!) and once you’ve sown the seed, open your eyes and open your heart.
Look for opportunities. It may not be in the form of a course, it may be watching a video on youtube or reading a book or meeting an inspiring person. Allow the opportunities to flow and be sure you seize them when they come across your path.
Set about your daily life as though you were looking for affirmations of your new belief. Ask within yourself for signs that ‘x’ is happening.
You will find synchronicities pouring into your life. Put it to the test and see!
- Sow the seed of what you’d like to change.
- Don’t worry about how to change it.
- Allow yourself to feel the change taking place within you.
- Notice every day and every moment.
- Be aware of opportunities that present themselves, whether it be from friends or strangers.
- Take action (see next post).
You are amazing. You can be what you want to be and do what you want to do.
In the next post we’ll be looking at specific things you can do for self transformation. The how and the why.
Do you have anything specific you’d like to see transformed? Tell us about it in the comments and I’ll get back to you asap.